According to research carried out on different online support groups, people suffering from depression tend to use certain words such as “I”, “me” and “myself” more than those without depression.They also use ‘absolutist’ words such as “totally”, “always”, “never” and “completely”. No surprise that they also used more words when describing negative emotions such as ‘sad and ‘unhappy’.
This research was done using Mumsnet as a control and comparing it with anxiety and depression groups and it found that absolutist words were used 50% more in the anxiety and depression groups and this increased to 80% when these groups were talking about suicide.
Researchers also looked at the language used in recovery groups and the good news was they expressed themselves in a much more positive way although the use of absolutist words were still apparent even in recovery compared to the control group.(1)
It’s interesting to see that certain words are used more by people who are feeling depressed than those who aren’t,feeling depressed, anxious and stressed. These absolutist words put in a negative context can make you feel isolated and alone and this seems to be reflected by the choice of words used probably without realising it.
The good news is that there is a range of help available and the following can help you overcome depression and help you feel like YOU again:-
I also help clients to change their language and focus on the positive direction they want to go towards rather than the negative path they are avoiding, as we get what we are focused on. Hence important to focus on the good things that we want, rather than the bad things we don’t want.
- Exercise- Releases powerful endorphins chemicals in the brain that make you feel good and uses up that excess adrenaline and stress hormones that can cause the free radicals that cause oxidative stress.
- Diet- Eating a mood enhancing diet such as leafy greens, fish, beans, chicken and eggs, plenty of fluids (not alcohol!) omega 3, B vitamins and Vitamin D.
- Mindfulness – Being aware of the present moment by using techniques such as concentrating on your breathing, and using yoga and meditation. This is being used more and more in dealing successfully with stress/anxiety, but it is something you need to do regularly to see best results. Note short term stress can be ok for our bodies but long term is detrimental. Mindfulness breaks up the long term stress, with breaks away from the stress making it safer and healthier for us.
- Sleep – Important for your body and brain to recover and flush out toxins while you sleep and give you energy to deal with your busy day. Aim for 7-9 hours/night.
- Hypnotherapy – Hypnotherapy helps fine tune your thought processes and taps into the latent power of the mind, to de-stress you and promote relaxation and healing throughout your mind and body. Highly successful tool that is now being used more and more. This is a fabulous technique I use with all my clients to help them reinforce the neurological changes they want to make for the long term.
You only get one body to live in… look after it and allow you mind to enjoy your life!
Note that just because you feel this depressed way, never means you have to remain that way. You may feel like everything is hopeless and only see problems ahead but you can feel good again, if not better than ever, as in most other cases that I deal with. I just need to help you change the way your mind works and you will feel the difference.
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